Struggling to Feel Safe? This Might Be Why...
When Winter Brings More Than Just Cold Weather
It's not just the winter blues making you feel off.
Sure, the season can be intimidating for some—the darkness arrives earlier, the isolation creeps in, the cold seeps through every layer. But for others, this is the season they've been waiting for: cosy dressing gowns, thick socks, blankets wrapped around shoulders, the permission to layer and cocoon themselves in warmth.
All of these things—the soft fabrics, the weight of a blanket, the warmth against skin—they make us feel cosy and safe.
But what if I told you there's a difference between feeling cosy and actually feeling safe?
What if the reason you're struggling to truly relax, even under all those layers, has nothing to do with the temperature outside... and everything to do with what's happening at the base of your spine?
The Hidden Connection Between Your Tailbone and Your Sense of Safety
Let me introduce you to something you might not have considered before: the Base Gateway.
In Spinal Flow Technique, we work with seven gateways along the spine, seven areas where stress, trauma, and life's burdens can create blockages that affect your entire being. The Base Gateway sits at your coccyx, your tailbone, and it holds the key to something fundamental:
Your body's ability to feel safe in the world.
Here's what makes this fascinating: the connective tissue called dura mater that protects your tailbone is the same thick, cushiony tissue that protects your brain. Your body's intelligence isn't just in your head—it's throughout your entire body, especially your spinal cord.
And your spine? It's been keeping score of every stress you've ever held onto.
Why Your Body Tucks Its Tail (Just Like a Scared Dog)
Picture a dog's tail. When a dog feels happy and safe, the tail is lifted and open. But when it's afraid? The tail tucks under.
Your Base Gateway works exactly the same way.
When there's a threat—real or perceived—your body goes into fight or flight. The sympathetic nervous system becomes active. Your body knows it might need to fight or run really fast, so it:
Stops digesting
Stops reproducing
Tucks your coccyx under
This tucking stretches the dura mater and suppresses the vital flow of energy between your brain and nervous system. It creates a stress response that alters your circulation, reproduction, digestion, immune response, and your entire physical and emotional health.
When the threat passes, your body is designed to untuck your tailbone and return to the parasympathetic response the state where you rest, digest, and heal.
But here's the problem:
When we experience chronic stress or traumatic events, the body's survival mechanism is to hold on tightly. It creates patterns of tension and dis-ease throughout your whole body. It keeps your tail tucked, even when the danger has long since passed.
This cellular imprint of stress and trauma directly impacts:
Your sense of safety in the world
The way you relate to people
How you respond to everyday life
Each time this imprint is triggered, your body reacts as if there were a tiger right beside you. Everything becomes a threat.
You become more prone to taking things personally. Anxiety becomes your companion. You feel suspicious without knowing why. Rest becomes difficult... even breathing deeply feels like a challenge.
The Anatomy of Feeling Unsafe
Your tailbone is a series of 3-5 fused bones that support you to sit upright. It's an area rich in tendons, ligaments, and muscles that make up your pelvic floor and support the weight of most of your body.
No wonder when the Base Gateway is blocked, your entire sense of stability in the world feels shaky, uncertain, wobbly.
The emotions get held and held and held... until pain and physical symptoms become your body's only way of calling attention to what it's been trying to tell you all along.
Maybe you've seen health professional after health professional, still unable to find the answer.
Maybe you've been told it's "just stress" or "all in your head."
Maybe you've tried everything and still can't shake the feeling that something's not quite right.
Today, you can choose to stop carrying these burdens.
The One Thing You Can Control (That Changes Everything)
Here's the empowering truth: you can become your own healer.
When you listen to your body and learn to understand where your stress has been stored, you can use your Life Force energy to decrease and release that stress, get out of fight or flight, and return to a parasympathetic nervous system response—one of ease, flow, and joy.
Every person is unique. You are the one who can listen to and interpret your body. You're the one who understands what works for you and what doesn't. You're the one who chooses what to put in your body and how you choose to live in response to your environment.
And it can begin with something you're doing right now:
Your breath.
The Wisdom Hidden in Your Breath
Breathing is the most important thing you do daily. Within the breath is the wisdom of life itself... and it holds the keys to soothing your nervous system.
Here's what makes the breath so powerful: it's the ONLY part of the fight or flight response you can control.
You breathe automatically when you don't pay attention to it, but you can also use the control you have over your breath to change what's happening in your body, mind, and heart.
When we use deep, full breathing, we can consciously shift from a sympathetic response (fight or flight) to a parasympathetic response (rest and heal). The amount of stress held in the body diminishes. Our energy becomes abundant. Our emotions become more appropriate to the actual degree of threat.
Try This Experiment Right Now
I want you to see this for yourself:
Clench your gluteal muscles really tight (tuck your tailbone under, like that scared dog)
Now, while holding that tension, try taking a deep breath in
Notice how that feels
Release the tension
Take another deep breath
Do you feel the difference? Do you see how much easier it is to breathe when your Base Gateway is not tucked under and blocked?
This is your body showing you what it's been trying to tell you.
No matter where you are or what you're doing, the breath is always with you—waiting for you to use it to soothe your mind, breathe in life-force energy, and release what's no longer needed.
If you can change your breath (and you can, trust me), then you can also change your state of mind and quality of life.
What If You Could Feel Safe in Your Body Again?
Imagine waking up without that underlying sense of unease.
Imagine your shoulders dropping away from your ears without conscious effort.
Imagine taking a full, deep breath that reaches all the way to your belly—and it feeling natural, easy, like coming home.
This isn't wishful thinking. This is what happens when we address the root cause of why your body doesn't feel safe—when we release the blockages, clear the stored stress, and teach your nervous system that it's finally okay to let go.
Where Healing Happens: Your Options for Feeling Safe Again
At Reiki Divine Therapy, we understand that healing isn't one-size-fits-all. What works for you is as individual as you are.
Start with a Free Consultation
Let's talk about what you've been experiencing and find the therapy that feels right for you. Whether it's:
The Roll Over with Reiki Duo - combining Reiki Divine Experience with Spinal Flow Technique® for complete nervous system reset and energetic healing
Spinal Flow Technique - specifically releasing those blockages in your Base Gateway and throughout your spine
Reiki Divine Experience - restoring energy flow and creating the safety your system needs to heal
Guided Meditation with Reiki - teaching your nervous system new patterns of peace
We'll discover the path that calls to you.
Book your free telephone consultation: 07545 053 129
Ready to Go Deeper? The Retreats
Sometimes what we need isn't just a session—it's a complete reset. A chance to step away from everything and give ourselves permission to truly heal.
Our intimate retreats (limited to just 3 participants) offer that sacred space:
✨ Body Retreat - When your body has been keeping the score and you're ready to release what it's been holding
✨ Mind Retreat - When the 3am thoughts won't stop and you need to quiet the noise
✨ Soul Retreat - When you know there's a deeper purpose calling and you're ready to answer
Each retreat combines Spinal Flow Technique, Reiki Divine, and guided meditation in an environment designed for safety, trust, and transformation. Plus 21-day integration support to continue your healing journey.
These aren't large, impersonal gatherings. These are intimate, deeply personalized experiences where you're truly seen.
When you heal in a space where your nervous system feels genuinely safe, everything changes.
This Season, Give Yourself Permission
Permission to feel safe.
Permission to let go.
Permission to heal.
The cosy blankets and warm layers are beautiful—they're an external comfort that matters. But the deepest warmth, the truest safety, comes from within. From a nervous system that finally knows it's okay to rest. From a body that remembers it's safe to breathe fully.
You've been holding on so tightly for so long. Your body has been trying to protect you in the only way it knows how—by staying vigilant, by keeping its tail tucked, by never fully letting go.
What if today is the day you teach it something new?
What if today is the day you show your body that it's finally safe to heal?
Connect and Begin Your Journey
Reiki Divine Therapy, 24 High Street, Whiston, Rotherham, South Yorkshire, S60 4HH
Call or message Nici: 07545 053 129, Email: nici@reikidivine.co.uk, Website: www.reikidivine.co.uk
On-street parking available outside with a small bridge over the river to access the space.
"Your body, mind, and soul have been working overtime to protect you. Today, we teach them that it's finally safe to let go and remember who you truly are." — Nici
A Final Thought
Whatever energy you put into healing yourself—into understanding your breath, releasing your stress, unblocking your Base Gateway—you will quickly gain it back.
And not just gain it back. You'll discover reserves of peace, energy, and joy you forgot existed.
You deserve to feel safe in your own body.
You deserve to breathe fully.
You deserve to heal.
And you don't have to do it alone.
Welcome home to yourself. 🌟
Start your healing journey today Reiki Divine Therapy